Okay, this is a relief to read. I thought I was going crazy. Boiled down, Aiden has a naïve belief in implied things being binding, and Shandara is more rational expecting people to be explicit about things they expect to be binding. This is fine; my growing despair was that we had an OOC disagreement on what words were in front of my eyes, but that doesn't seem to be the case.

As for intentions with the spirit wood, Aiden basically has none. He has a small experimental project for about two fingers worth of it. That's all! Ironically, if Shandara was the kind of person to have asked outright "can I have this it's very important to me" he'd probably fall all over himself trying to accommodate. It's really just the mismatch of expectation and outcome.