Quote Originally Posted by Tvtyrant View Post
I'm not sure why any of this except disappearing when someone had a boyfriend could be construed as bring a jerk.
Honestly even this doesnt need to jerkish behavior as long as you’re reasonable about it. You also need to be honest with yourself. Are you trying to be friends or just looking for a romantic partner. Finding a romantic partner at work/volunteering has a few inherent perils but isnt strictly a problem in and of itself.