Originally Posted by
WarKitty
I have definitely gotten the sense with a few that there was a sort of personal defensiveness going on? Like therapists who would go slowly on a report of abuse from a parent or an ex, would jump right in to push hard on a report of abuse by a prior therapist. Or they'd act like my being nervous and cautious around them was a personal affront - it sort of felt like if I told a friend about being harassed by a man and their first response was "not all men are like that." It's true, but extremely unhelpful at that point.
I'd actually be more comfortable with a therapist if they didn't put on such an explicitly unbiased front. Statements like "you'll never make me upset" aren't reassuring, because I know they're not true. They just make me think that the therapist isn't able to recognize and handle their own feelings, and that it's more likely to be pushed on me.